In our discussions about traveling the trail towards wholeness, we stated that the first step was to be totally sold out to God. If you recall we felt God saying, “If you’re not sold out, you’re going to bail out.” After this we said the next step was to be committed to “dealing with your stuff.” Then, in our last conversation we hopefully helped everyone better understand exactly what we meant when referring to the term “stuff.” This being said, I hope everyone is still tracking with us.
At this point in time, many maybe asking – “so what do we do to deal with our stuff?”
I believe there are at least ten things or steps we can take to get us started on our journey to wholeness. The steps will help us identify, process, and deal with our stuff, which include those sometimes very deep issues that would hinder our path to wholeness.
First, after making the quality choice to totally sell out to God, we must have a burning desire to become whole. We must actively seek godly improvement and change in our life. We all need to know that God is ready, willing, and able to empower us to achieve greater levels of wholeness.
One thing we must remember is that it took years for us to get to the unhealthy state we find ourselves in, and that moving toward wholeness is not a flash in the pan experience. Actually, the journey to wholeness is a life-long trip, but the returns on our investment are well worth the effort. Remember, Paul said that although he had not yet attained, he was committed to pressing on (Phil. 3:12).
As we fully embrace and yield to God’s shaping and molding of our character the journey to wholeness accelerates. One of the great things about this journey is that since it is His idea, God ensures you’ll have all the support and resources you need to make rapid advancement.
The second step is to humbly admit to the Lord and yourself that you have issues, and ask Him to clarify exactly what they are and how you are to overcome them. Usually, He will give you a scripture or verse to use as the basis to process the behavior, attitude, or activity that requires change or transformation.
Our responsibility in this matter is to have the self-motivation and initiative, to push forward and through, no matter how challenging it may be. Remember, if God is for you, who can be against you (Rom. 8:31).
Next, we must recognize our psychological or emotional neediness that fuels the behavioral strategies and self-centered attitudes that govern our attempts to meet these innermost needs.
In our training and workshops we look at the five basic psychological needs that every human has inherited as a result of God’s absence from the core of man’s being. This absence is related to the Spirit of God withdrawing from the heart of Adam when he disobeyed God in the garden.
The five innermost needs are love, acceptance, security, identity, and approval. It is these five core needs that are at the root of most of the behaviors exhibited by mankind. For far too many these needs have been intensified and exacerbated by negative childhood experiences.
If Jesus Christ is not allowed to totally meet, heal, and arrest these five needs they will totally undermine and sabotage your journey to wholeness. If left unchecked the devil will use our man- made efforts to meet these five needs as access points to lead us into compromising and self-